‘It’s going to be fabulous,’ Putting Style Into Saying Goodbye

Gabriella Iannetta Calabrese • October 15, 2024

When Steven Wilson was diagnosed with terminal acute myeloid leukemia he was flooded with memories of his boyfriend’s funeral in 2014. He soured remembering the minister only knowing his partner’s name and nothing more, Wilson told the New York Times. 

“The whole thing was just utterly impersonal,” Wilson said. The 47-year-old remembers hearing a medley of ‘November Rain’ playing the day of the funeral–the Guns N’ Roses ballad his boyfriend “never once” listened to.


Funeral homes are listening to customers' demands. When Wilson was walking near his home in Chiswick, UK, in 2020 he happened upon a blue storefront with the words “Exit Here” emblazoned above the entrance. 


“What a brilliant name,” he thought to himself. 


People walking by Exit Here could easily mistake it for a boutique gallery or even an ultramodern tattoo shop. Upon entering the morgue with velvet upholstery and curved archways, potential clientele are greeted by someone from the 12-person staff in a way one would usually only see at a hotel or high-end restaurant. 


“It’s still a service industry,” Oliver Peyton, the founder of Exit Here, says. “We’re taking care of people at a very heightened emotional period in their lives.”


In another life Peyton was the founder of the posh Atlantic Bar & Grill in West London and served as a judge on the BBC show “Great British Menu.” But in 2010 when Peyton’s father died he became fascinated with the mortuary business. His experience led him to realize that people don’t have many choices when it comes to end-of-life services.


Through Peyton’s vision, Exit Here provides an array of caskets ranging from saturated, multi-colored Day of the Dead cardboard to containers with soft curves and pastel paintscapes. Some urns look like jewel-colored YETI water bottles or petrified wood vases. Peyton insists that the display is more than a show–his business provides personalized memorials, bereavement support groups and any detail the client might request, really. 


Funeral directors should take note. Clients have been increasingly insisting on customizations for funerals, according to RokFinancial. The financing agency lays out the ways customers are looking for consumer preferences: more cremations, live virtual memorials and eco-conscious services. 


“Gone are the days of one-size-fits-all funeral services,” the report reads. “[Consumers want] custom urns to eco-friendly burial options, businesses are adapting to meet the evolving demands of a discerning clientele.”


Exit Here doesn’t stand alone. Places such as Sparrow in New York, Poppy’s in London and Altima in Spain are dedicated to providing modern–dare we say fun–services for those who may be going through the darkest time of their lives. 


Sparrow, located in Greenpoint, Brooklyn, was described by its owner Erica Hill as being similar to a Sweetgreen of Soulcycle. “They repackage something, rebrand it and make it look cool,” she said. “What we’re doing is in the same realm.”


Thanks to Exit Here, Wilson says his own funeral will be “fabulous.” He describes friends and family meeting in his hometown in Scotland to lay his body to rest in a coffin with a rainbow flag draped over it. Memory books broken up into eras of Wilson’s life will be handed out. It’s “very Taylor Swift,” he explains. Wilson’s favorite musical scores playing “Bring Me Home” from “Les Miserables” and “Tomorrow” from “Annie” will play. 


“It sounds strange, but I want people to enjoy it.”


By Pearl Marvell April 28, 2026
A two-part spring lecture series at Belmont Chapel invites the community to approach end-of-life conversations with honesty, creativity, and even a little courage. There's a reason most of us avoid talking about death. It feels morbid, premature, or simply something that we'd rather not think about. But a new lecture series at Island Cemetery in Newport is making a gentle, practical case that these conversations — held early, held openly — are among the most meaningful we can have. Death and Dying is an evening series of talks that brings together experts and community members inside the historic Belmont Chapel at Island Cemetery for evenings that are all about intention. Two sessions this May take on subjects that touch nearly everyone: how a life gets written down, and what happens to our bodies after we're gone. The first will be led by our very own Kim Shute and the second talk will be given by Memorial Funeral Home's Kurt Edenbach. May 7: Talking about obituaries won’t make you dead This engaging workshop offers practical tools for writing obituaries that reflect a real life, not just a list of facts. Through examples and guided prompts, participants will learn how to move beyond clichés and tell a meaningful story—whether writing for themselves or someone they love. The workshop is designed to be engaging, not somber, and leaves participants with skills they can actually use. May 14: New & Innovative burial options A week later, Kurt Eudenbach will address a question more people are asking: are there alternatives to traditional burial and cremation? The answer, increasingly, is yes — and the options have grown significantly in recent years, shaped by environmental concerns, personal values, and new technology. From green burials and conservation cemeteries to aquamation, human composting, and other emerging methods, the landscape of end-of-life choices is expanding in ways many people haven't yet heard about. This lecture offers a grounded, accessible look at what's available, what's legal, and what might align with your own wishes — or those of someone you're helping plan for. To reserve your spot, click on the link here .
By Kim Shute April 28, 2026
I just love it when I pick up a random book and it transports me to places, I never could have imagined. Nothing to See Here by Kevin Wilson is one of those rare finds. I was pulled in from page one by the story of a poor girl trying her luck as a scholarship recipient at a private boarding school for the ultra-elite, set against the backdrop of down-home Tennessee. The book vacillates between current day and flashbacks from her earlier life. Our narrator and main character, 28-year-old Lillian Breaker, is, quite honestly, a bit of a mess. She is living in the attic of her self-absorbed mother’s house, and her life feels stagnant at best. Beneath the humor, this is a story that touches on childhood neglect and the sharp divides of income and social status. We learn about Lillian’s complicated relationship with Madison, her former boarding school roommate who reappears with a mysterious and highly confidential job offer. What unfolds is a story about misfits that made me laugh out loud one moment and feel unexpectedly emotional the next. I struggled at times with the dynamic between Madison and Lillian. Given their history, I found myself questioning why they remained connected at all. Yet many of us are guilty of staying in relationships that do not reward us with reciprocity. Still, as the story unfolds, witnessing the trust develop under such unusual and often untenable circumstances helps to restore a bit of faith in human connection. There is a strange magic to this book. It leans into the weirdness in a way that is both disarming and oddly comforting. As Lillian herself suggests, I hope this story “hypnotizes you with weirdness” as you make your way through it. Let us know if you decide to give it a read or a listen, and what you think.
By Pearl Marvell March 27, 2026
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By Pearl Marvell March 3, 2026
Losing someone we love is one of life's most profound experiences, and finding a meaningful way to memorialize them can bring great comfort during the grieving process. While keeping a traditional urn at home is a time-honored choice, today there are more ways than ever to celebrate a life well lived. One of the most personal options is transforming ashes into wearable keepsakes. Some companies will pressurize ashes into a diamond, which you can then set into a ring, necklace, or other jewelry item of your choice. Our very own Director of Community Relations, Kim Shute, took some of the ashes of her late husband and made a diamond ring, which she absolutely loves. Parting Stone is another company that offers a beautiful way to memorialize your loved one by transforming their ashes into a collection of polished stones that can be held, shared, and cherished forever. The process uses scientific precision to solidify cremated remains into clean, ceramic-like stones that vary in size, shape, color, and texture — making each collection as unique as the individual it honors. Rather than an urn tucked away in a closet, families can carry the stones in their pocket, display them in a memorial garden, scatter them meaningfully, or divide them so that everyone who loved the person can keep a piece close — making Parting Stones a deeply personal and lasting way to stay connected to those we've lost. For those who feel a connection to nature, there are several meaningful earth-friendly options. Tree urns allow a loved one's ashes to nourish and give life to a tree, which provides a living, growing tribute that endures for generations. Another eco-conscious option is a coral reef memorial, where ashes are incorporated into a concrete reef structure that helps restore natural marine habitats. Scattering ashes in a meaningful location is another deeply personal choice. If your loved one had a passion for travel, you could take their ashes on a journey and scatter them in places that were meaningful to them — perhaps somewhere they always dreamed of visiting. Scattering at sea can also be a beautiful send-off, especially if they loved the beach or were a boating enthusiast. For the creatively inclined, ashes can be woven into works of art. You can commission an artist to create a painting using paint mixed with your loved one's ashes, with popular choices including a portrait of the deceased or a scene from their favorite landscape. Companies can also press ashes into a vinyl record , allowing you to preserve a loved one's favorite songs as a lasting musical tribute. As you can see, there are so many ways that we can honor our loved one’s ashes. If you have any questions, reach out to us!
By Kim Shute February 28, 2026
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By Kim Shute January 8, 2026
How many of us wish we could go back in time to soak up more of the people we loved? I for one have wished for this multiple times since the death of my husband. I want to see him again because his life story is all jumbled in my memory. When did he take care of the grounds of that golf course? When did he walk off that roofing job in his 20s because they did not respect him? And I want more details on when he failed out of engineering school only to go back later after our son was born. Since all those things pre-date my entrance into his life, I have no way of finding out. No one in his life would remember or care about what seem like mundane details. The book review we have for you today is about this very topic. This Time Tomorrow by Emma Straub was written while the author’s father was in the hospital. He had suggested she write a book about a daughter visiting her father in the hospital and that is exactly what she did. I am not a fan of Sci-Fi, but I can tolerate a bit of fantasy. I like my fantasy to be anchored in realism, no blue skin or characters named Tragorin for me. Emma Straub writes a time travel novel without any of the Sci-Fi vibes. Based firmly in realism unless you do the math on how old their pet cat is in 1996 and then in 2020. You may have to suspend your disbelief on that detail. It begins with the main character, Alice, on the eve of her fortieth birthday. Her life seems to be fine, albeit a bit lackluster. Her father who is a single father and famous for writing a time travel novel, is in the hospital. The next morning, Alice wakes up as her 16-year-old self, but she still has all the knowledge of her 40-year-old brain. The book does not have a Groundhog Day like quality to it, but she is trying to change the end result. With her father in the hospital in 2020 she finds herself wanting to spend lots of time with her dad when she goes back in time. She gets to ask all those questions that she did not care about the first time, when she was only consumed with her teen self and friends. This is a love story of a different variety, between a daughter and her dad, between her and her friends, and with herself. This book made me just want to read or listen instead of doing my grown-up responsibilities.  I hope you will give this book a try as it is both hopeful and wonderful.